I’ve seen articles similar to this circulating the web, and every time i always think ‘i’d add this to the list’ or ‘they should have put this on the list’ so i thought it was time for me to compile my own. Spending a lot of time on my own this year really gave me chance to ‘discover’ myself a bit better and i feel like i’ve changed a lot, for the better. Cheesy i know, but never the less, true. And i do feel like this year i’ve grown so much as a person and i’m feeling more like myself than i have in a very long time. Here’s my list…
Fear of failure will stop you from growing.
If you’re scared to try something new because you’re afraid you’ll fail, you will never grow. A comfort zone is a wonderful place, but nothing will ever grow there. Push your boundaries, do one thing every month that scares you. Trust me, it’s exhilarating and you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Make time for yourself… alone.
I see it everywhere ‘you need to be comfortable on your own before you can be with someone else’ and i’ve never felt like this is more true than in recent months. It can be daunting to be alone but once you’re comfortable in your own company you’ll feel a lot better. Needing to be around people 24/7 isn’t healthy and isn’t feasible. Spend some time by yourself, you’ll learn to love it as much as i do.
You do not have to have your life figured out by the time you’re 25.
I think that society in general puts this huge pressure on young people to have everything figured out by a certain age, and if you don’t fit the mould you’re considered a loose end/failure. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG. So what if the girls you went to school with just got married at 24 or have their own houses with their fiances and you still live at home with your parents. Who cares if you’re not in your dream job… there is always time to make a change. You have your entire life ahead of you still. Thinking you should have it all planned out will kill your dreams and make you miserable. You do you, boo.
Your goal in life does not have to be ‘get married, settle down, have kids’
Leading on from my last point, where i’m from people have very little desire to leave, they grow up here, marry a local, have kids, settle down for the rest of their lives in the same place. And that’s fine. But it’s not for everyone. If that’s what you want to do with your life that’s brilliant, but there are people, like me, who don’t have these aspirations. Sure i’d like to get married and have kids one day, but there is so much of the world to explore that staying in the one place for my entire existence just doesn’t appeal to me. And that does not make me a failure or a burn out, it makes me, me.
Do something you’re passionate about.
This is a massive one i think everyone should take on board regardless of your age. As children we’re told the sky is the limit, you can do anything you want to do. But as adults we’re told we need to ‘grow up’ and ‘get a proper job’ or ‘dreams are for kids’. Why? You can spend 40 hours a week slogging away at a job you hate, and then go home and complain about it. Or you can do something that makes you happy. I’m not saying quit your job, you can if you want to pursue something you’re passionate about instead, but even something small. Make time for something that really exhilarates you and makes you happy at least once a week. There’s more to life than just paying the bills.
Look after your health…
This one is often drilled into us by doctors and healthcare professionals, but i don’t think enough people take it on board. Don’t do it for other people, do it for yourself. Do you really want to reach a certain age and be plagued with health problems caused by being overweight or unhealthy? If you want children do you want to be trailing behind them at the park, or unable to take them on fun adventurous days out because you’re too unfit? Looking after your health is about more than vanity, it’s about making sure you’re healthy and will benefit you in the long run. Trust me… if i hadn’t been as fit as i was when i had my accident, things would have been a lot worse and i might not be lucky enough to be walking today. Look after your health. You’ll thank yourself later.
Make yourself the priority…
Something i’ve learnt over the last year especially is that you should always make your own feelings and well being a priority. This is something i neglected to do in the past and although it’s nice to be a nice person and consider others once in a while, you should always be your number one priority.
Let go of toxic relationships…
Friends. Boys. Anyone… You do not have to be around anyone who isn’t your cup of tea (or coffee). You realise as you get older that you don’t have to be friends with the girl everyone loves but you can see is a huge ass hole. You don’t have to stay with someone just because you’ve been together a long time. If something is toxic, get rid. Simple. It might be hard at first but you will get over it, and you will feel 100x better in the long run.
Everything happens for a reason…
This is probably one of my most used phrases. Sometimes life is shit. I’ve had enough the last two years to last me an entire life time, but i still believe that everything happens for a reason. One door closes so another can open, and when you feel like you’re in the worst time of your life just remember this, things will get better. You won’t feel like this forever and a year from now you’ll look back and be grateful for the shit times because they make us stronger. You will come out on top and where you are is where you’re meant to be in this exact moment. Everything has a way of figuring itself out, and the sooner you accept that the happier you’ll be.
Big Love to all my readers, i can’t believe there is 45 thousand of us on my little blog!!
You’re seriously amazing.